I remember my college days, when we begin to form more significant relationships—whether romantic, friendships, or deeper connections with peers. It’s during this time of exploration that a loss, breakup, or disconnection from someone close can feel truly heartbreaking relatively than the other phases of life. For me, this was the beginning of my understanding of grief.

I was once told that I didn’t fully understand grief. Since it’s a sensitive topic, using the right words at the right time is crucial. I once accidentally used the word still in a question and didn’t realize the weight it carried or how it might be interpreted, even though my intentions were good.

My friend and I were both grieving our respective losses, and I had managed to recover sooner than she had.

One day, I noticed she seemed sad and withdrawn, so I asked, “Bro, are you still feeling sad about it?” I meant to check in on her and offer support. However, to her, it sounded like I was being insensitive, as though I was pressuring her to move on. I later realized that it could indeed sound that way.

This experience taught me how differently words can be understood, especially when emotions are involved. Grieving is a deeply personal journey, regardless of the type of loss experienced. Whether you’re mourning a loved one, an unfulfilled dream, or a part of yourself, giving yourself space to grieve is essential for healing.

Supporting someone through grief is a delicate process that often involves being a steady, compassionate presence. 

Supporting someone through grief is about patience, empathy, and understanding.

By creating a safe, judgment-free space and honoring their individual journey, you provide a powerful form of support that helps them feel less alone. Self-care, rituals, and sometimes professional support can be key components in coping with grief.