Even when living comfortably alone, relationships can introduce a unique set of psychological challenges. This is because being with oneself is fundamentally different from being with others. Even internally, we grapple with the influence of significant others who have shaped our psyche. These internal voices can evaluate our actions and project their influence in various ways.

Can we separate the individual from society?

Hypothetically, isolation might be possible, but practically, we are shaped by our interactions with others and the environments where we grew up. These experiences condition and influence us, making each personality unique.

Therapy and the Deeper Layers of Relationships

In close relationships, we move beyond superficial connections and engage various aspects of our personality that might normally stay hidden. This closeness and consistency can bring forth both positive and negative aspects, including those linked to past traumas. These experiences can be far removed from the carefully curated image we often present to the world. We ourselves may even be accustomed to this edited self-perception.

Therapy and close relationships can unveil these deeper layers, leading to discoveries and a reevaluation of our lives and the roles others play within them. This process can be unsettling, but it's important to consider: would these revelations have surfaced eventually? Would you have discovered your true self, or remained trapped within a socially constructed version of yourself, perpetually frustrated by unknown causes?

The Benefits of Self-Discovery

The deeper you understand yourself, your motivations, true desires, and needs, the less likely you are to make significant life mistakes, like choosing the wrong career path or incompatible partner. Ultimately, a greater understanding of yourself leads to a more joyful life. The absence of internal contradictions and external conflicts frees up valuable resources to pursue what truly brings you satisfaction and allows you to achieve self-actualization.

Seeking Help from a Mental Health Specialist

If you find yourself struggling with self-understanding or navigating difficult relationships, consider seeking professional help from a licensed therapist or counselor. These mental health specialists can provide a safe and supportive space to explore your experiences and develop healthy coping mechanisms. They can also equip you with communication skills to foster stronger, more fulfilling relationships. There are many different therapy approaches, so don't hesitate to research and find a specialist who aligns with your needs and preferences.