We often say, "I have a fear of..."—fear of rejection, fear of missing out, fear of speaking too much, fear of speaking too little, fear of losing a job. But where does this fear end? It doesn’t. Fear has become a constant in our life.

But why do we fear?

As a psychologist, I interact with many people daily. From these interactions, I’ve noticed that people fear because they take too much responsibility—responsibility for others' happiness, for avoiding mistakes, for chasing a perfect life.

I often ponder: as children, we were carefree. We faced stress and fear, but we knew how to compartmentalize. We weren't chasing perfection; we were simply enjoying life. Yet, as adults, we get trapped in the cycle of expectations from parents, society, careers, partners, and even our children. In this pursuit, we lose ourselves.

Here are a few points to consider:

Are we true to ourselves?

Do we value and timely appreciate ourselves for our efforts and achievements, or do we seek validation from others?

Can we take time for ourselves without guilt?

Do we genuinely enjoy our work, or do we do it just to pay the bills?

Are we steering our own lives, or merely riding as passengers?

The answers vary for each person based on priorities. The goal isn't uniformity but understanding our own priorities and way of life. 

To all readers of this blog, I request you to pause and reflect: Are you truly enjoying your life? Do you have a sense of purpose or are you held back by such fears that keep you from embracing your true identity?