How to deal with grief
I thought I'd share my experience as I've felt it myself.
As for advice on "grieving well," I'm afraid I don't have much. There
are no 'good' grieving techniques that I'm aware of, nor is there any advice on
how to cry without getting snot in your nose while you grieve. It's sad that
grief lasts far longer than you anticipate; it's nasty, painful, and isolated.
Grief can catch you off guard because it breaks all laws. It can come over you
like a tsunami, then steadily recede before rising again. Welcoming sorrow is
an unwelcome fact that imposes itself on your life, serving as a reminder of
the waves. One thing I
am certain of regarding grief is that you cannot run from it or put it in a box
till you feel stronger. Your grief will not go away if you do not deal with it;
instead, it will be there and cause you to feel angry, confused, lonely, alone,
hopeless, and guilty until you do. You see, grieving needs to be felt. To
completely let it go, you must feel it. I understand that you are scared, that it
is draining, and that people are probably avoiding you due to the fear that
they will not know the way to respond if you get agitated. You might have
believed that you could manage this and suppress your emotions better if you
were stronger. Alright, let me to explain. You are a way stronger than you
think you are. Sometimes we underestimate our ability to let go of things
because we fear the pain that comes along with it but the only way out is to
let it go. It will take for you to feel better eventually but you will get
there. Believe me you will get there