I need to stop yelling
We always feel very upset with ourselves when we yell at our kids
In this post few steps will help you calm down a little bit
1- You need to be aware of the real cause of your anger and what you are actually intolerant of.
- Is it really your kid's behavior that upset you, or something else?
- And was the mistake made by your kid matching with your reaction?
- And when you find out the real actual reason, then you need to talk with a specialist or someone who loves you and will be able to help you. Be careful, suppression will lead to an explosion sooner or later.
2- You need to set reasonable expectations for your kids that match their age and awareness ( remember that no matter how big and tall they are, they are still children )
3- You need to think about the consequences of your nervousness towards him/her (lack of self-confidence, depression, internal or external anger, fear, lack of speech, lack of participation, a shaky personality that endures insults all the time, does not know how to demand his rights and therefore people give him his rights, ...... And many things worse than that.)
4- You need to put yourself in your kid's place, see the world through his eyes, and think about when you were younger and your mom and dad started yelling at you, how did you feel?
5- Finally, imagine ... If your boss made a great mistake ( insulted you or made a big mistake at work ) would you yell at him?
Or you would think a million times before taking any action ?? because you would simply lose your job.
But with your kid, we don't take time to think about this poor kid who has no choice but to either bear your behavior it or apologize just to feel forgiven!!. We do not think that we could lose him/her irreparably.
Our children deserve our kindness, compassion, and great love. Because we definitely want them to be better than us. Remember that these kids are gifts that you were once praying to have.
Try to do one of these steps at least, and keep on doing this
Be blessed & Live it consciously.
