Self-Love and Healthy Relationships: A Guide for Women and Girls
Many people have different expectations and desires for their lives, but not all of them are realistic or healthy. For example, some people think that being healthy is enough to be happy, but they may neglect other aspects of their well-being, such as their mental and emotional health. Others think that having children is the ultimate goal of marriage, but they may overlook the importance of mutual love and respect between spouses. And some think that getting into college is the only way to succeed, but they may ignore the value of other skills and experiences.
One of the most common issues that I encounter in my practice is the lack of self-esteem and self-love among women and girls who seek my help.
As a couple therapist, they often ask me how to make their partners love them more, stay faithful to them, and forget about their past relationships. They believe that their worth depends on how their partners treat them, and they feel insecure and jealous when they perceive any threat to their relationship.
This is a very unhealthy and harmful way of thinking, because it leads to a lot of stress, anxiety, and resentment. It also prevents them from seeing their own beauty, strength, and potential. They do not realize that they are valuable and lovable regardless of whether they have a partner or not.
I try to help them understand that they need to love themselves first, before they can love anyone else.
They need to appreciate their own qualities, talents, and passions, and pursue their own goals and dreams. They need to take care of themselves, physically, mentally, and emotionally, and enjoy their own company. They need to fill their lives with joy, wonder, and color, and not depend on anyone else for their happiness.
This does not mean that they should give up on relationships, but rather that they should have healthier and more balanced ones. They should look for partners who respect them, support them, and care for them, and who do not take them for granted or manipulate them. They should also respect, support, and care for their partners, and not try to control or change them. They should communicate their needs and feelings, and listen to their partners’ needs and feelings. They should share their interests and hobbies, and also respect their differences and boundaries. They should be tender, attentive, and warm, and also allow their partners to be themselves.
This is what a good relationship is based on: mutual love, trust, and respect.
This is not a matter of luck or fate, but of choice and effort. This is not a simple equation, but a complex and dynamic process. This is not just logic, but also emotion.