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How do I rebuild my marriage after infidelity?

I made a terrible mistake—I was unfaithful to my husband, and he found out through intimate messages. Since then, our life has turned into a nightmare. Sometimes he forgives me, and other times he lashes out, calling me terrible names. These emotional swings have left us both completely exhausted.

I’ve done everything I can to make things right. I’ve begged for forgiveness, poured my heart out, and tried to show him how deeply sorry I am. But even after 6 months, he’s still struggling, and we’re stuck in the same painful cycle.

We have two young children and have been married for 6 years. I love my husband and want to fix this, but I don’t know how much more we can take. I’m completely devastated and don’t know what to do next.

Has anyone been through something like this? How can we heal, or should I let go for the sake of our sanity and our kids? I’d appreciate any advice from a therapist or someone who’s been in a similar situation.

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Hi Monika,its Hajra here a clinical psychologist, your situation is quite challenging and it shows that how much you care about your husband,your marriage and your family but Infidelity can deeply wound a relationship, but it is possible to heal if both partners are committed to rebuilding trust and creating a new foundation.You can take some steps to consider i-e; seeking professional help,they can help both of you navigate the complex emotions involved, improve communication, and identify patterns contributing to the current cycle. Therapy provides a neutral space to express feelings constructively.

Acknowledge the Emotional Pain: It’s important to recognize that your husband is still processing his pain. Recovery from betrayal takes time, and emotional swings are often a manifestation of unresolved feelings. While you’ve expressed remorse, he may need more assurance through actions, not just words.

Be Patient: Six months may feel long, but recovery from infidelity can take much longer, depending on the individuals and circumstances. Healing is a gradual process, and setbacks are common.Ultimately, whether you decide to stay together or part ways, seeking professional guidance can provide clarity and support in making the best decision for yourself, your husband, and your children.Heart

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Hey, this is good that you have good insight about your misconduct, and you want to fix it, as an expert in couple and relationship counseling I can help you out in this matter, you need professional help may be only 2 sessions. Further no body can give you an advice that will sufficient to fix your issue my dear, everyone have different backgrounds and reasons.

 

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