Why We Fall Asleep to Murder Stories
Start by picturing not yourself, but your brain as an old detective sitting in a dark room with a desk lamp. He’s flipping through files of bloody cases—not to catch the killer, but just to feel like the world still runs on some kind of rules. Now open your eyes: that detective is you when you fire up another serial-killer podcast before bed.
Step 1: How the Brain Tricks Itself into Safety
When you hear about someone sneaking into a stranger’s house in the dead of night, your amygdala—the little almond-shaped “danger sensor” in your brain—blares its siren. Adrenaline spikes, heart races. But thirty seconds later you remember: it’s just the TV. The siren fades, leaving a pleasant tingle—like you survived danger without leaving the couch.
This phenomenon has a name: paradoxical valence. Psychologist Dolf Zillmann showed back in the 1970s that people enjoy negative emotions when they know they’re artificial. A 2019 study in the Journal of Communication (Coltan Scrivner et al.) confirmed it: true-crime fans score higher on morbid curiosity—an evolutionary mechanism that once pushed our ancestors to study predators so they could survive.
Fun fact: in a 2023 YouGov poll, 58% of women and 42% of men admitted true crime helps them fall asleep. Women lean toward podcasts; men prefer video reconstructions.
Step 2: When Chaos Becomes a Lullaby
Remember how, as a kid, you might have felt oddly calm when your mom was loudly arguing with the neighbor? Familiar. Dr. Thema Bryant, president of the American Psychological Association 2022-2023, explains this through traumatic identification. People raised in unpredictable homes (alcohol, constant fights) treat silence like an alarm. “Something’s wrong if everything’s quiet.”
A 2021 article from the Cleveland Clinic noted that participants with high childhood stress were significantly more likely to use true crime as “white noise.” Their brains saw violence stories as familiar territory—the rules may be brutal, but at least they’re clear.
Real-life note from therapy: a 35-year-old client said she only falls asleep to My Favorite Murder because “the hosts sound like my sisters when we hid from Dad in the closet.” After three months of therapy, she switched to space podcasts—same vocal rhythm, zero triggers.
Step 3: The Line Between Preparation and Paranoia
Your brain is running drills. Every episode is a simulation: “What would I do if…” Evolutionary psychologists call this mental rehearsal of threats. A 2022 University of Oklahoma study showed regular true-crime viewers are 23% better at spotting suspicious behavior in real life.
But there’s a flip side. When you “train” on serial killers every night, the brain starts seeing patterns where none exist. That’s apophenia—the tendency to find connections in random data. The neighbor who comes home late suddenly looks shady.
Real case: after binging Making a Murderer, 27% of viewers reported heightened daily anxiety (BetterHelp survey, 2024).
Step 4: How to Know You’ve Crossed the Line
Here’s a quick 3-minute test:
- Past week: do you hit play on true crime automatically, even when you’re not in the mood?
- After watching: do you check the locks more often than usual?
- Morning: do you wake up feeling like “something bad is about to happen”?
Two “yes” answers = time for a break.
Step 5: Alternative “Lullabies” for the Detective Brain
- Science-mystery podcasts (Radiolab, The Infinite Monkey Cage)—same rhythm, no anxiety
- ASMR historical reconstructions—details without violence
- Survival-in-the-wild books (Into the Wild)—adrenaline without crime
Final Frame
Your brain isn’t broken. It’s just trying to solve a very old problem: how to survive a world full of unknowns. True crime is only one tool. The question is whether you’re using it—or it’s using you.
Dive deeper:
- Scrivner, C. (2021). The psychology of morbid curiosity. Oxford University Press
- Bryant, T. (2024). Homecoming podcast—episode on true-crime addiction
- Cleveland Clinic Health Essentials (2021). “Why True Crime Shows Affect Your Mental Health”
Now turn off the screen and listen to the night breathing. For the first time in a long while, you might hear silence without dread.