My POV on Anger

As a psychologist, I see anger not as a "bad" emotion—but as a signal. It tells us that a boundary has been crossed, an injustice has been perceived, or that something important to us is being threatened. Anger is valid, and like all emotions, it carries valuable information.

But here’s the issue: most people aren’t taught how to express anger safely or constructively. So instead of being understood and released, anger gets suppressed, misdirected, or explodes. That's when it becomes damaging—to our relationships, to our health, and even to our sense of self.

In therapy, I help clients explore what lies beneath their anger—often it's hurt, fear, shame, or a long history of feeling unheard. When we unpack it, anger transforms. It becomes less scary, more manageable. It becomes a tool, not a weapon.

I always say: anger is not the enemy. It's the way we’ve been taught to handle it that needs healing.