When Presence Matters More Than Possessions

When Children Have Everything… But Still Feel Empty

Today, many parents work hard and want to give their children the best of everything—good schools, toys, tablets, clothes, and even early access to technology. On the surface, it may seem like the child has a perfect life. But in many cases, something very important is missing: emotional connection and attention.

As a mental health professional, I’ve seen more and more children with signs of virtual autism—a condition where children show poor eye contact, delayed speech, emotional disconnection, or behavioral issues. These children are often raised in homes where both parents are working, and screens (mobiles, tablets, TVs) have become the babysitter. The child may not cry for love—but inside, they are lonely, overstimulated, and often confused. In other families, the father is earning and the mother stays at home—but she may be deeply stressed. Maybe there are fights at home, a lack of support, or pressure from in-laws. In such homes, children may not be exposed to screens all day, but they absorb the emotional tension around them. A sad, distracted, or exhausted mother often struggles to give her child the emotional presence they need.

Why Emotional Presence Matters
Children do not only grow through food, toys, or school—they grow through connection. A hug, a smile, a routine, or a simple "How was your day?" teaches the child that they are loved and safe. When that connection is missing, children may:

• Become emotionally distant

• Show signs of anxiety, hyperactivity, or aggression

• Struggle with social skills or delayed speech

• Seem "lost" or constantly distracted

What Can Parents Do?
You don’t need to be perfect—but your child needs to feel your presence. Here’s what helps:

• Spend at least 20–30 minutes daily with your child without any screens

• Offer active listening when they speak

• Share meals together as a family

• Limit screen time and replace it with interactive play or reading

• Keep routines (bedtime, story time) predictable and calming

• If you’re feeling overwhelmed yourself, seek support—because a healthy parent builds a healthy child

In the end, your child won’t remember the price of their toys—but they will remember the warmth of your voice, the safety of your arms, and how you made them feel seen and valued.